the article was about healing after a traumatic experience that the author have had. it was actually about the 9/11 attack, entitled 9 Ways to Heal After Tragedy. the author was Leslie Haskin, and she actually wrote a book about it, titled "HELD"... here goes the steps:
**get out of bed > recovery means rebuilding trust..it's a lot easier to be who you are and to start from where you are..travel this road at your own pace..you will laugh again, dance again, and feel joy again...
**find a safe place in your mind > envision a safe place in your mind that you can run away to when reliving the event gets to be too hard...scaping to that place will help you to breathe through the pain and open you up for God's healing touch...
**be honest about what you remember > it's difficult to keep all the facts in some understandable order because our mind has a tendency to skip from one thing to another.it's important not to suppress the feelings or the events..wrote down everything..writing it all down was the most terrifying thing..
**find a soothing sound that helps you relax > taking some time to relax or meditate after journaling is very important..it will help you to breathe and hear what God is saying to you about what you have written..to aid your relaxation, play a soothing tape or CD, close your eyes, and just listen..
**validate the impact of the trauma > it's important to your healing that you don't downplay the impact that the event or trauma has had on your life and your emotions..acknowledge it..don't hide behind God in a pretense of faith..there are wounds that only you and God know about, and it's time to let Him see them so that He can repair in you what is broken, making you softer to the touch..you can trust Him...
**be open and honest with god > trust Him with your thoughts and the full range of your emotions..this should be a "no holds barred" conversation..God has given you the right and the permission to be honest with Him..He doesn't punish us for telling the truth..
**make God real for you > the idea here is to acknowledge God's power and who He is..first, envision what God might look like to you..then identify a place in your home for you to meet Him and set a place for two..set aside a time every day and meet Him in that place..pull up a chair and read your journal to Him..the reason for doing this is to deepen your connection by making God more than an intangible...
**SURROUND YOURSELF WITH LOVING, PATIENT FRIENDS > you will noticed that i typed the title of this step in big, bold letters. because during the whole hospital ordeal, i was mighty thankful that i have friends like flora and tina who gave me strenght and the will to overcome the test i was in. i may not have darwin at one point of that hospital thingy, but i have my friends who supported and guided me. as what Leslie says, "there are no words to express the value of their friendship during that time.."
moreso on her writing:
Healing is not the same as recovery. Recovery is medically
defined, but healing addresses the restoration of wholeness to heart, mind, and
soul. Recovery is about temporal living, and healing is about the everlasting.
**spend time alone with the beloved > the idea is to keep things simple and to begin them soon..every great goal must be reduced to smaller intermediate goals, which I like to think of as steps..in this journey, we take one step at a time until we reach our final destination..getting there requires going one day at a time and having time alone with God..
i'd like to think that perhaps the reason why is stayed longer in the hospital was because i never got the chance to be alone with darwin. i was badly needing to spend some time alone with him so i can cuddle, feel his loving presence, and that comfy feeling that he always give me whenever i am embraced by his strong arms. i have been with God thru all that ordeal, i am sure about that...
what i really liked about all this is how Leslie differentiate healing and recovery. what i went thru was mainly recovery, i got closer to God the time i was in the hospital but i know that i was not completely healed yet. the times i cried at night when i woke up with all those needles connected to my vein, i talked to God. sometimes i told him i hate the world, oftentimes i thank Him as well for letting me still lived. it was an experience that helped me in more ways than one. health is wealth, yeah, i know that. but what i got was more than physical health; it's something more of wealth of the spirit...
...::and the saying goes::...
"Though no one can go back and make a brand new start,
anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.-Carl Bard"
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