a friend send this thru my lotus notes. i like the idea how the message is presented on how GOD communicates with us. it's like lume-level-up din si God... spread the word, peeps.. **wink**
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To: YOU
Date: TODAY
From: GOD
Subject: YOURSELF
Reference: LIFE
This is God. Today I will be handling All of your problems for you. I do Not need your help. So, have a nice day.
I love you.
P.S. And, remember...
If life happens to deliver a situation to you that you cannot handle, do Not attempt to resolve it yourself! Kindly put it in the SFGTD (something for God to do) box. I will get to it in MY TIME. All situations will be resolved, but in My time, not yours.
Once the matter is placed into the box, do not hold onto it by worrying about it. Instead, focus on all the wonderful things that are present in your life now.
Should you decide to send this to a friend; Thank you. You may have touched their life in ways you will never know!
Now, you have a nice day.
Thursday, February 19, 2009
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
RELATIONSHIP TIP 101
i got this fr kalay and i'm so thankful for her thoughtfulness... i love my friends right now. just like a tag-line from a battery commercial, "they keep me going..."
she got it somewhere from the net, here goes>>
Maybe your relationship has gone through a hard time recently, or maybe you have had problems in the past that you never want to have again. If your relationship is going to last, you’ll find that it does need to be strong, and with that in mind, you need to think about making sure that you have the tools to do so. The truth of the matter is that strong relationships do not magically come up between two people who are right for each other; it takes time, patience and work. Take some time to look at these tips for building a solid relationship.
1.Good communication
Set some time aside every week or even every day to talk about things that affect your relationship. When you are looking at a way to move forward and to get the results that you need, you’ll find that there are a number of things to keep in mind, so remember that you should talk them out. Where is your relationship going and what are you looking for out of the relationship? If your goals differer, it is better to know sooner rather than later.
2.Time for each other
When you get started with your relationship, you might find that there are many different things that you need to remember, but that spending time together is not among them. As time goes on, though, you might find that you are taking each other for granted. With that in mind, remember that you should still make time just for the two of you. How does your relationship cope when you spend time apart and how much better is it when you have spent some time together? Keep that in mind.
3.Time for yourself
One way to keep a relationship healthy is to keep yourself healthy as well. When you are looking at building a stronger relationship, look at your own health and strength. Make sure that you cn do things for yourself and that you really enjoy. When you get good time alone and when you learn about being on your own, you will be in a much better position to move forward and appreciate your time with each other as well.
4.Think about what is right for them
Remember that when you are in a relationship that you need to think about the other person. Although you might be able to take care of yourself, keep in mind that you should also occasionally step in and take care of them when they are in need. Remember that if you care about someone, the best way for you to show it is to be considerate. Take the time to put their needs first and to really make them feel special.
she got it somewhere from the net, here goes>>
Maybe your relationship has gone through a hard time recently, or maybe you have had problems in the past that you never want to have again. If your relationship is going to last, you’ll find that it does need to be strong, and with that in mind, you need to think about making sure that you have the tools to do so. The truth of the matter is that strong relationships do not magically come up between two people who are right for each other; it takes time, patience and work. Take some time to look at these tips for building a solid relationship.
1.Good communication
Set some time aside every week or even every day to talk about things that affect your relationship. When you are looking at a way to move forward and to get the results that you need, you’ll find that there are a number of things to keep in mind, so remember that you should talk them out. Where is your relationship going and what are you looking for out of the relationship? If your goals differer, it is better to know sooner rather than later.
2.Time for each other
When you get started with your relationship, you might find that there are many different things that you need to remember, but that spending time together is not among them. As time goes on, though, you might find that you are taking each other for granted. With that in mind, remember that you should still make time just for the two of you. How does your relationship cope when you spend time apart and how much better is it when you have spent some time together? Keep that in mind.
3.Time for yourself
One way to keep a relationship healthy is to keep yourself healthy as well. When you are looking at building a stronger relationship, look at your own health and strength. Make sure that you cn do things for yourself and that you really enjoy. When you get good time alone and when you learn about being on your own, you will be in a much better position to move forward and appreciate your time with each other as well.
4.Think about what is right for them
Remember that when you are in a relationship that you need to think about the other person. Although you might be able to take care of yourself, keep in mind that you should also occasionally step in and take care of them when they are in need. Remember that if you care about someone, the best way for you to show it is to be considerate. Take the time to put their needs first and to really make them feel special.
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
GELousy
wikipedia defines jealousy as that negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety. this feeling normally happens en a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. jealousy often contains a mixture of emotions such as anger, sadness, and disgust. while jealousy and envy are similar, they differ in that jealousy is about something one has and is afraid of losing, while envy is about something one does not have and either wants to acquire or to prevent another from getting...
how aptly the words describe what i am feeling right now... and what's scary is that i am jealous because i am envious... yay, scary, huh??!!!
here's the low down... my partner, darwin met this OL (online friend) that just came home from US. for the sake of anonimity, let's call him OL. so OL and darwin has been spending some time every chance they can. WITH MY PERMISSION OF COURSE!!!! of course, people may say that i am stupid for allowing that. but my point is i don't want my partner to feel caged in our relationship. i want him to broaden his horizon. I DON'T WANT TO SET LIMITS OF WHO SHOULD HE BEFRIEND OR WHO SHOULD HE AVOID. i don't want to set the rules...
BUT THAT DOESN'T GIVE ME THE RIGHT TO CONTROL IT, RIGHT?
but to be damn right honest, i am not happy about this setup. i may have accepted it, but i am not 100% INTO it. the BIG WHY? BECAUSE I GET SO FREAKING JEALOUS.
ok, i don't want to set limits, rules, whatchamacallit, but as partners, i think the other party should also know what's his limitations right?
we had an argument tonight because he will be spending the whole wednesday with OL in Batangas with some of OL's friends. granted that he assured me HUNDREDS OF TIMES THAT THERE'S NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT, i still feel bad about it. i feel bad mainly because i know OL has some teeny-weeny thing for my partner. i feel crappy because he will be with OL on some private resorts with the possibility of him getting drunk and be taken advantage for. i feel bad because i think bad about other people. i think of the negative things other people may do to my partner... i feel crappy because i just could not trust other people so easily.
and what's scaring me so much is that the root of my jealousy has something to do with my envy of the things that my partner and OL have. i envy darwin for his confidence, look, optimism that he gets to attract people easily. of which lots of people wanted to befriend him--or otherwise...i envy OL for the things that he can give to my partner that i cannot--this is on a more material level... i envy darwin that he has wide sets of friends that i get jealous because the friends i have are the same set of common friends that we have (with the exception of multiply contacts). I envy that he can be so insensitive some time and I am always that one who needs to adjust. I envy that he gets a lot of attention that I get jealous with it.
I really feel so hypocrite because just recently I posted something which is very far from what I am thinking and feeling right now…
I wanted to talk to him about this. But how can you say and explain to someone that your jealous without you sounding like a pathetic loser?! How can you make someone be in your shoes when all you wanted for that someone is to be happy in, and don’t feel caged in?
the big questions: is there really a basis for me to become jealous here? Or is it just my reaction towards a possibility of OL getting some intimate moment with him? Or I AM JUST GETTING PLAIN PARANOID?
how aptly the words describe what i am feeling right now... and what's scary is that i am jealous because i am envious... yay, scary, huh??!!!
here's the low down... my partner, darwin met this OL (online friend) that just came home from US. for the sake of anonimity, let's call him OL. so OL and darwin has been spending some time every chance they can. WITH MY PERMISSION OF COURSE!!!! of course, people may say that i am stupid for allowing that. but my point is i don't want my partner to feel caged in our relationship. i want him to broaden his horizon. I DON'T WANT TO SET LIMITS OF WHO SHOULD HE BEFRIEND OR WHO SHOULD HE AVOID. i don't want to set the rules...
BUT THAT DOESN'T GIVE ME THE RIGHT TO CONTROL IT, RIGHT?
but to be damn right honest, i am not happy about this setup. i may have accepted it, but i am not 100% INTO it. the BIG WHY? BECAUSE I GET SO FREAKING JEALOUS.
ok, i don't want to set limits, rules, whatchamacallit, but as partners, i think the other party should also know what's his limitations right?
we had an argument tonight because he will be spending the whole wednesday with OL in Batangas with some of OL's friends. granted that he assured me HUNDREDS OF TIMES THAT THERE'S NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT, i still feel bad about it. i feel bad mainly because i know OL has some teeny-weeny thing for my partner. i feel crappy because he will be with OL on some private resorts with the possibility of him getting drunk and be taken advantage for. i feel bad because i think bad about other people. i think of the negative things other people may do to my partner... i feel crappy because i just could not trust other people so easily.
and what's scaring me so much is that the root of my jealousy has something to do with my envy of the things that my partner and OL have. i envy darwin for his confidence, look, optimism that he gets to attract people easily. of which lots of people wanted to befriend him--or otherwise...i envy OL for the things that he can give to my partner that i cannot--this is on a more material level... i envy darwin that he has wide sets of friends that i get jealous because the friends i have are the same set of common friends that we have (with the exception of multiply contacts). I envy that he can be so insensitive some time and I am always that one who needs to adjust. I envy that he gets a lot of attention that I get jealous with it.
I really feel so hypocrite because just recently I posted something which is very far from what I am thinking and feeling right now…
I wanted to talk to him about this. But how can you say and explain to someone that your jealous without you sounding like a pathetic loser?! How can you make someone be in your shoes when all you wanted for that someone is to be happy in, and don’t feel caged in?
the big questions: is there really a basis for me to become jealous here? Or is it just my reaction towards a possibility of OL getting some intimate moment with him? Or I AM JUST GETTING PLAIN PARANOID?
Friday, February 13, 2009
PART 2 // RANDOM THOUGHTS...
This part is more work-related. With everything that’s going in the office, I feel I am not going anywhere. 3 yrs and here I am, still stuck in specialist level—with the consolation of promoted to tier 2 and seniority.
As I said from previous post, what prevents me from resigning is the worldwide economic turmoil. Recession is everywhere, and people say that I should be mighty thankful that I have a job. Not to sound ungrateful but I really am thankful to be employed. I mean my salary’s not bad. Plus the workload here in my department is just “no pressure.” To say that it’s piece of cake would be an understatement! Heck, I could even blogged and update my sites at work…
But this is not what irk me. With this no-pressure feeling I feel more stagnant. BORED with a capital B!
“Sometimes, the quickest way to get things done is to stick to established ways of proceeding. However if we do this more often, we may be stunting our growth as a person. There are time when we have to make room errors. Mistakes are opportunities for us to learn and important and unforgettable lessons.”
Ok, this really got me thinking into moving on. What’s stopping me? It’s my duty as a bread winner. I can’t afford to be unemployed. With all the credit card bills, home loans, salary loans, having no job is a big NO-NO! And contemplating, debating on this matter consumes all my mental energy for the past few days (aside from Darwin’s case). Thoughts of what’s waiting for me out there should I leave kills most of my time. Time which could have been spent on other (probably) more productive things.
One more thing is that I am the type of person who’s afraid to throw cushion in the wind. I’m afraid of change. With change comes adjustment, adapting….
“Change can be a very daunting experience. Letting go of established ways may lead to a (very) deep sense of insecurity. But change is a necessary part of our growth as a person. We will endure if we strive to adhere to our core values while trusting that our God will help us take care of the other details…”
But I know I have to make this change. The change which is not mainly for me but for the people who depend on me. I have to take the risk, for benefits-wise what I am getting in IBM is ONLY enough to suffice my needs (and some luxury every now and then), but not for my parents. This is a motivating factor because at this point I’m done taking care of myself (maybe not 100%)—basically my needs and wants. I need a company that extends its benefits to my folks.
I know I am stressing myself too much on this matter--can’t help. It’s hard if people have created a picture of you as the responsible, dependable type. It’s actually a mold I have created for myself that it’s so hard for me to get out of. But the pressure is too much to bear. I remembered one time I texted my friend if he knows some shrink for I want a reality check if I am going crazy. ‘cuz there was a time last year when my daily average sleep ranges for 2-4 hrs only! YAY, twas really so scary! What my friend told me is to unload to God, talk to Him, and my burden will be enlightened…
“With all the stuff that needs to be done, we may feel too guilty to take some time to rest and relax. However, our Lord reminds us that we have to take care of ourselves too. Our being burnt-out will not benefit anyone. We can serve better those who are in need if our lives are healthy and in order…”
And coming from Master Shifu (Kung Fu Panda)…
“Still bothered by what happened yesterday? Sit down and relax. Gather yourself. No matter how bad yesterday was, it now belongs to the past. Don’t let it stop you from pursuing the many possibilities of today. Today is a gift you can unwrap and share with all. That’s why it’s called PRESENT…”
And tomorrow will still be a mystery…
As I said from previous post, what prevents me from resigning is the worldwide economic turmoil. Recession is everywhere, and people say that I should be mighty thankful that I have a job. Not to sound ungrateful but I really am thankful to be employed. I mean my salary’s not bad. Plus the workload here in my department is just “no pressure.” To say that it’s piece of cake would be an understatement! Heck, I could even blogged and update my sites at work…
But this is not what irk me. With this no-pressure feeling I feel more stagnant. BORED with a capital B!
“Sometimes, the quickest way to get things done is to stick to established ways of proceeding. However if we do this more often, we may be stunting our growth as a person. There are time when we have to make room errors. Mistakes are opportunities for us to learn and important and unforgettable lessons.”
Ok, this really got me thinking into moving on. What’s stopping me? It’s my duty as a bread winner. I can’t afford to be unemployed. With all the credit card bills, home loans, salary loans, having no job is a big NO-NO! And contemplating, debating on this matter consumes all my mental energy for the past few days (aside from Darwin’s case). Thoughts of what’s waiting for me out there should I leave kills most of my time. Time which could have been spent on other (probably) more productive things.
One more thing is that I am the type of person who’s afraid to throw cushion in the wind. I’m afraid of change. With change comes adjustment, adapting….
“Change can be a very daunting experience. Letting go of established ways may lead to a (very) deep sense of insecurity. But change is a necessary part of our growth as a person. We will endure if we strive to adhere to our core values while trusting that our God will help us take care of the other details…”
But I know I have to make this change. The change which is not mainly for me but for the people who depend on me. I have to take the risk, for benefits-wise what I am getting in IBM is ONLY enough to suffice my needs (and some luxury every now and then), but not for my parents. This is a motivating factor because at this point I’m done taking care of myself (maybe not 100%)—basically my needs and wants. I need a company that extends its benefits to my folks.
I know I am stressing myself too much on this matter--can’t help. It’s hard if people have created a picture of you as the responsible, dependable type. It’s actually a mold I have created for myself that it’s so hard for me to get out of. But the pressure is too much to bear. I remembered one time I texted my friend if he knows some shrink for I want a reality check if I am going crazy. ‘cuz there was a time last year when my daily average sleep ranges for 2-4 hrs only! YAY, twas really so scary! What my friend told me is to unload to God, talk to Him, and my burden will be enlightened…
“With all the stuff that needs to be done, we may feel too guilty to take some time to rest and relax. However, our Lord reminds us that we have to take care of ourselves too. Our being burnt-out will not benefit anyone. We can serve better those who are in need if our lives are healthy and in order…”
And coming from Master Shifu (Kung Fu Panda)…
“Still bothered by what happened yesterday? Sit down and relax. Gather yourself. No matter how bad yesterday was, it now belongs to the past. Don’t let it stop you from pursuing the many possibilities of today. Today is a gift you can unwrap and share with all. That’s why it’s called PRESENT…”
And tomorrow will still be a mystery…
WHEN GOD TXTD ME
i've been slack from blogging for the past couple of days. the thing is there were so many random thoughts in my head. so many that i didn't even know what to write. i've been busy just reading multiply updates, reading blog entries (ron and jm lago) and posting comments.
then the fact that i was busy as well thinking what to give to my partner on Vday all make me more busy! my back aches right now from lack of sleep for the past days. and for slouching in my chair here in the office waiting for call to come in...
i've been meaning to post this entry way back. i got inspired maybe from jm's onelifetolive campaign. we'll actually this even started before jm's 30-day self-introspection thingy. i have this subscription which i enlist the start of the yr wherein i'm getting daily quotes from the bible and basically all that's GOODNEWS. i'm not a religious person but i have my faith.
"in today's world where multi-tasking is a way of life, it is easy to get distracted and lose one's focus. we may be involved in so many thing that depth and
i am not into that whole horoscope thing as well.. you know those serendipitous, coincidental instances because i believe everything happens for a reason. be good or bad it happens because it needs to happen. i believe in karma.. what goes around comes around...
reading jm's entry really opened up something in me that my relationship with God and with myself is weak. life is not a smooth sail--i've had my own share of shitty stuffs. said been there done that couple of times.. plans i concocted in my head is not starting to materialize and that's when disappointments came crashing in.
let's start with my failed QA application. it's in the past now. some people say i did not get the post because i have an attitude.. whether they see that attitude of mine bad or what, it helped me analyze myself more. i learned from it. the criticism may have crushed other but not me. i was pounded to the ground, yes, but this made me see my perspective even broader. for awhile there, i even put most of my mental energy there picturing myself of something that was never reachable all along. it got me demotivated and depressed for the past couple of days, then i got this txt:
"it is natural for us to aim success in everything that we do. however being successful may not be necessarily what our Lord expects from us. Winning isn't always what is best. Indeed, decisions that promote what is just are more desirable even if they may be seen by others as moment of failure..."
then the fact that i was busy as well thinking what to give to my partner on Vday all make me more busy! my back aches right now from lack of sleep for the past days. and for slouching in my chair here in the office waiting for call to come in...
i've been meaning to post this entry way back. i got inspired maybe from jm's onelifetolive campaign. we'll actually this even started before jm's 30-day self-introspection thingy. i have this subscription which i enlist the start of the yr wherein i'm getting daily quotes from the bible and basically all that's GOODNEWS. i'm not a religious person but i have my faith.
"in today's world where multi-tasking is a way of life, it is easy to get distracted and lose one's focus. we may be involved in so many thing that depth and
i am not into that whole horoscope thing as well.. you know those serendipitous, coincidental instances because i believe everything happens for a reason. be good or bad it happens because it needs to happen. i believe in karma.. what goes around comes around...
reading jm's entry really opened up something in me that my relationship with God and with myself is weak. life is not a smooth sail--i've had my own share of shitty stuffs. said been there done that couple of times.. plans i concocted in my head is not starting to materialize and that's when disappointments came crashing in.
let's start with my failed QA application. it's in the past now. some people say i did not get the post because i have an attitude.. whether they see that attitude of mine bad or what, it helped me analyze myself more. i learned from it. the criticism may have crushed other but not me. i was pounded to the ground, yes, but this made me see my perspective even broader. for awhile there, i even put most of my mental energy there picturing myself of something that was never reachable all along. it got me demotivated and depressed for the past couple of days, then i got this txt:
"it is natural for us to aim success in everything that we do. however being successful may not be necessarily what our Lord expects from us. Winning isn't always what is best. Indeed, decisions that promote what is just are more desirable even if they may be seen by others as moment of failure..."
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